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Our Perspective on Personal Growth

 

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Our Perspective on Personal Growth & Personal Fulfillment 

 

We view personal growth and fulfilment as a multidimensional and dynamic process. The goal of the process is to have you improve yourself, your performance, and your life. The process is comprised of several elements that combine to make a more fulfilled life for you. We view the process as having a foundation as well as supports that help maintain personal development and its four phases.  

 

Foundation and Supports

Foundation of Self

We believe you must develop and balance all facets of yourself; mind, body, heart, and soul. We view these four facets or dimensions as your foundation to self. Some people believe the foundation of self is two dimensions; mind & body. Others may think of it as three dimensions; mind, body, & soul. We, however, view it as four dimensions.

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Mind Your dimension for building your mental attitude and mental strength. It is comprised of knowledge acquisition, learning enhancement, and mental conditioning.

 

Body Your dimension involves caring for your physical body. This dimension is comprised of four main parts; health, nutrition, fitness, and relaxation.

 

Heart Your emotional dimension. This dimension has two domains; a personal domain that centers on your emotions and a social domain that centers on your relationships with others.

 

Soul Your soul is your spiritual dimension. Your soul is at the center or core of your being; it is who you truly are. It embodies your motives, your principles, your values, and is what guides you in your life.

 

 

Two Pillars

The foundation of self has two pillars. These two pillars help balance personal development and growth. One pillar is Performance Improvement and the other is Life Enrichment. The Performance Improvement pillar supports mind and body, while the Life Enrichment supports heart and soul. 

Pillars

Life is not just about the growth you experience, but it is also about the depth of your experiences. Your growth should be like that of a strong healthy tree that grows tall as well as deep. The top of the tree grows and branches in many directions, while the base becomes deep rooted to support that upward growth.

 

Growth and Depth

Performance Improvement focuses on growing and improving both the mind and body. Life Enrichment concentrates on personal fulfillment by deepening the heart and soul.

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Performance Improvement deals with enhancing your physical and mental performance by helping you analyze performance gaps and develop solutions so that you can perform at your peak potential. It focuses on knowledge acquisition, mental conditioning, as well as physical conditioning and strengthening.

Life Enrichment helps you create a complete and fulfilled life by discovering your purpose in life and finding ways for you to make a difference in your own life and in the lives of others whether it is through teaching, service, or simple acts of generosity.

Personal Development with Pillars

 

 

 

Personal Development

Personal Development is what ties all four dimensions together. It connects the mind, body, heart, and soul. These four dimensions are connect by the four components the personal development process. These components are also phases in the development process.   These elements/phases are:

 

Self-Discovery

Self-Development

Self-Mastery

Self-Actualization

 

Personal development process begins with self-discovery and continues to self-actualization.  

 

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Self-Discovery is the first phase of personal development. It is about the mind connecting to the soul. Your soul is the dimension that determines what you want your life to be ultimately about. Self-discovery is the process of gaining a deep understanding of our own self, character, needs, values, and purpose in life. It is finding out who you are, your personal interests, your values, your principles, as well as your hopes and dreams.

Self Discovery Core

 

Self-Development is a process of growing your mind and developing your body. It involves expanding knowledge, improving personal skills, and developing competencies. It also encompasses maintaining your health, enhancing your physical fitness, and connecting your mind and body. After working to develop skills and abilities you can ultimately reach mastery. Mastery is the highest development of any skill. The goal of self-development is to reach mastery of your skills and abilities.

 

Self Development Connection

 

Self-mastery is the ability to recognize, understand, control, and make the most out of your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual self. It is about connecting the mind and body to the heart and soul. Self-mastery is gained thorough awareness, understanding, and control over thoughts, emotions, and actions.

 

Self Mastery core

 

Self-Actualization is the final phase of the personal development process. Self-actualization is the realization of your fullest potential. It is the state of being when a person can confidently say, “I am being all that I am, and all that I was meant to be.”

Self Actualization core

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Connecting the Core Dimensions to the Personal Development Process

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Personal Development Plan

Personal Development Plan

 

A comprehensive personal development plan should have several key components. These components include self-discovery, a development plan, periodic evaluations, and a continuous improvement plan.

 

 

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Self Discovery

Self Discovery is the process of gaining a deep understanding of our own self, character, needs, values, and purpose in life.  It is a fundamental component of personal growth. Since we are all different in the way we think, feel, act, learn, and perceive the world, it is beneficial to take the time to reflect in order to gain a better insight into ourselves. Self discovery is a way for us to explore our individual personalities, natural preferences, values, beliefs, and dreams.

 

Development Plan

A personal Development Planis essentially turning your dreams into an action plan. A personal development Plan is a systematic approach to achieving your goals while building your personal effectiveness. It involves setting goals and crafting a structured plan for reaching those goals. In addition to goal setting, a successful plan involves enhancing skills and competencies. The key to any development plan is taking an action step toward the attainment of at least one goal every day.

 

Evaluation

Evaluation is the process of reviewing your actual results and comparing them against the development plan.  The goal evaluation is to determine what needs to be modified in order to achieve the goals that were set in the plan.  If adjustments need to be made to the plan, you can make those as you complete your evaluation. 

 

Continuous Development

Core Dimension Dynamics™ is the philosophy, principle, and process that empowers us to grow and develop ourselves and our lives through continuous improvement. We must consciously spend time and energy honing ourselves and our skills to maintain and increase our effectiveness. Dynamic Core Dimensions incorporates all four facets of self; mind, body, heart and soul.

 

 

 

About Personal Development

 

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About Personal Development

Our programs typically begin with self-discovery then evolve into the creation of a plan in which you set goals for yourself. Through self-discovery and goal setting you will build the foundation upon which you will create your destiny.

During self-discovery you will learn what makes you happy, what you value, what talents you have, and what you want to achieve in life. After you have discovered where you are and what you want to achieve, you will create a plan to accomplish those goals. You continuously modify the plan as you develop your skills and obtain feedback.

By creating and accomplishing goals, you are able to measure and take pride in your achievement. The process of setting and accomplishing goals not only allows you to achieve more and improve your performance, but gives you focus while building your self-confidence and self-esteem. And self-esteem is the keystone for self-actualization and personal fulfillment.

Our Personal Development program has four components:

  • Self-Discovery
  • Self-Development
  • Self-Mastery
  • Self-Actualization

 

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Phases of Personal Development

Self-Discovery: Self-Discovery is the process of gaining a deep understanding of our own self, character, needs, values, and purpose in life. It also allows an individual to be more aware of his or her interests, hopes, dreams, and potential.

 

Self-Development: Self-Development is a process of consciously improving oneself in various aspects of his or her life. It is the conscious pursuit of personal growth by improving personal skills, competencies, talents, and knowledge in order to seek self-fulfillment and proactively reach your fullest potential.

 

Self-Mastery: Self-mastery is the ability to recognize, understand, control, and make the most out of his or her physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual self. It is gained thorough awareness, understanding, and control over thoughts, emotions, and actions.

 

Self-Actualization: Self-Actualization is seeking personal growth through peak experiences in order to realize his or her fullest potential and reach self-fulfillment. It is the state of being when a person can confidently say, “I am being all that I am, and all that I was meant to be.”

 

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Four Phases of Personal Development

 

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Four Phases of Personal Development

Personal Development begins with self-discovery. You first must find out where you are in order to move on from there.  Self-Discovery allows you to gain a deep understanding of your own self, character, needs, values, and purpose in life. It also allows you to be more aware of your interests, hopes, dreams, and potential. Self-discovery involves taking time to deeply reflect on who you are, what you want to achieve, and the person you want to become.

After you discover who you are and where you are headed, you begin the self-development process by assessing your current skills and competencies. This involves gathering information about your aptitude, skills, competencies, and talents and critically reviewing them. This leads to the accumulation of self-knowledge. With self-knowledge you can understand your strengths, as well as identify areas where you would like to make improvements. It basically gives you the information needed to begin self-development.

 

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About the Four Phases of Personal Development

Self-Development is the process of developing specific aspects of your mind and body. It is the pursuit of personal growth by enhancing your physical and mental skills, competencies, talents, and knowledge in order to seek self-fulfillment and proactively reach your fullest potential. Self-development is the actions leading to self-mastery and self-actualization.  

 

Self-mastery is the ability to recognize, understand, control, and make the most out of your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual self. It is gained thorough awareness, understanding, and control over thoughts, emotions, and actions. As your performance improves, your mastery of your skills and competencies also improve. As your skills improve, you achieve more and your self-confidence increases. An increased self-confidence leads to being happier and feeling more fulfilled in life. You ultimately reach self-actualization and realization of your full potential. As you reach self-actualization you are becoming everything that you are capable of becoming.  

 

 

 

Self-Discovery

Self Discovery

Self-Discovery

Self-Discovery is a lifelong journey of exploration through our inner self, trying to discover who we are, our potential, our purpose in life, and what core principles are guiding us to take different paths along the way. The journey starts with self awareness then explores personal interests as well as hopes and dreams for the future. The journey eventually leads us to self knowledge which will enable us to guide ourselves towards situations and experiences in which we will thrive.

Self-discovery is a fundamental component of personal growth. We must take the time to discovery who we are as a person. This is accomplished through self-reflection. Self-reflection allows us to think about and examine our actions, preferences, feeling, values, beliefs, emotions, and tendencies. Since we are all different in the way we think, feel, act, learn, and perceive the world, it is beneficial to take the time to reflect in order to gain a better insight into ourselves. Self-discovery is a way for us to explore our individual personalities, natural preferences, values, beliefs, preferred styles and tendencies. The ultimate destination of this journey is finding out who we are and what makes use unique.

“We must not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we began and to know the place for the first time.” – TS Eliot

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Process of Self-Discovery

The process of self-discovery is one in which a person is guided, through self-questioning and examination of one’s own thoughts, words, and actions, in order to reach his or her own conclusions regarding who they truly are.  Through the process a person gains a deeper understanding of his or her own self, character, values, and purpose in life.  He or she also becomes more aware of his or her potential.

 

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes

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The Process of Self-Discovery is broken down into four segments;

 

Self-Awareness – Increasing understanding of who you are, your personal characteristics, your tendencies, your emotions, your needs, and your value.

 

Interest Awareness – Establishing your personal interests

 

Hopes and Dreams – Listing your hopes and dreams for the future.

 

Career Discovery – Finding a career that corresponds to your personality and interest.

 

 

“The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The meaning of life is to give it away.” -David Viscot

 

Self-Reflection

The first step in the self-discovery process is self-reflection. You must make the time to stop and really think about who you are.  Quiet meditation and reflection will allow you to refocus your mind and concentrate on your inner self, and allow you to examine the way you “see” yourself.  Self-Reflection allows you to explore your individual personality, natural preferences, values, beliefs, preferred styles and tendencies in order to become self-aware. You can also reflect on your personal interests, your dreams, and what you would like to do for a living.

 

“A man travels the world over in search of what he needs, and returns home to find it.” – George Moore  

Personal Interest Awareness

 Personal Interests

Personal Interest Awareness Worksheet

 

It is important to identify what you are truly interested in and passionate about.  It is those activities that will motivate you the most.  The pure enjoyment you receive by doing those activities will provide intrinsic motivation to keep you moving in a positive direction with a lot of energy and enthusiasm.  Also by knowing what you enjoy, you can focus your attention on doing more of those activities.  The more activities you do that bring you joy and happiness, the better you feel about yourself and your life.

 

Answer the following questions to determine your personal interests.

 

I am happiest when I am:

 

My idea of a perfect day:

 

Five things I really enjoy doing:

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Three things I like to do every day:

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I am most passionate about:

 

 

 

Issues or causes I care deeply about:

 

 

If I had the talent or ability, I would:

 

 

If I could choose any job, it would be:

 

 

 

Answer the following questions.

 

What are the three activities that you most love to do?

 

 

How often do you do them?

 

 

If you would like to do them more often, what is stopping you?

 

 

What specific changes would you need to make in order to engage in these activities more frequently?

 

 

 

Printable Version of the Personal Interest Awareness Worksheet – Personal Interests

 

 

Needs Assessment Worksheet

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Personal Needs Assessment Worksheet

 

 

Rate the influence of the following needs on your life, your behaviors, and your decisions – “1” being the most influential and “5” being the least influential.   Add other needs you consider influential to the bottom of the list.

 

 

NEEDS Very influential     ?    Less influential
Wealth 1 2 3 4 5
Status/prestige 1 2 3 4 5
Power 1 2 3 4 5
Control 1 2 3 4 5
Adventure 1 2 3 4 5
Stability 1 2 3 4 5
Order 1 2 3 4 5
Security 1 2 3 4 5
Someone to rely on 1 2 3 4 5
Belonging 1 2 3 4 5
Love 1 2 3 4 5
Friendships 1 2 3 4 5
Family 1 2 3 4 5
Happiness 1 2 3 4 5
Expressing individuality 1 2 3 4 5
Creativity 1 2 3 4 5
Independence 1 2 3 4 5
Spiritual fulfillment 1 2 3 4 5
Personal achievement 1 2 3 4 5
Perfectionism 1 2 3 4 5
Be correct and not make mistake in front of others 1 2 3 4 5
Be admired by others 1 2 3 4 5
Attention of others 1 2 3 4 5
Not look foolish 1 2 3 4 5
Make others happy 1 2 3 4 5
Have fun 1 2 3 4 5
Make people laugh 1 2 3 4 5
Be accepted by others 1 2 3 4 5
Care for others 1 2 3 4 5

 

Other very influential needs affecting your life, your behaviors, and your decisions:

 

List your eight most influential needs:

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Which needs might you want to alter or change (e.g. the need to rely on others, the need to be perfect, etc…)?

 

Printable version of Needs Assessment – Needs Assessment

 

Interest Awareness

Personal Interests

Interest Awareness

It is important to identify what you are truly interested in and passionate about.  It is those activities that will motivate you the most.  The pure enjoyment you receive by doing those activities will provide intrinsic motivation to keep you moving in a positive direction with a lot of energy and enthusiasm.  Also by knowing what you enjoy, you can focus your attention on doing more of those activities.  The more activities you do that bring you joy and happiness, the better you feel about yourself and your life.

People often are encouraged to focus on and build upon what they are good at rather than what they enjoy.  Exhibiting our strengths often bring accolades from others which will make us feel good.  However, what we feel good about is not the activity itself, but rather the recognition and praise.  You will never be motivated enough to reach your true potential if you are not doing something you are passionate about.  It is best to focus on those activities that you are interested in versus those which you are good at.

 

“Not what we have, but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance.”  –  Epicurus

 

 

Personal Identity Workshops

Personal Identity

Workshops & Worksheets

 

The following Personal Identity Workshops helps you discover your personal traits, values, and tendencies.  Without conscious modification, most of these remain fairly constant throughout your life.

   

Self-awareness Worksheet

Personal Attribute Worksheet

Value Assessment Worksheet

Needs Assessment Worksheet

Habits and Tendencies Worksheet

Emotional Awareness Worksheet

Interest Awareness Worksheet

Hopes and Dreams Worksheet

Career Values Exercise

Personal Attributes 

A personal attribute is a quality or characteristic inherent to someone.  Attributes embody attitudes, beliefs and skills.  Personal attributes are the distinguishing characteristics that make you “you.”  They can often predict how a person will act or react to certain situations.

Personality traits can be interpreted as both positive and negative. For instance, being critical could be a plus for an editor of a publishing company or a building inspector.  However, could be negative you are coaching a team.

Personal attributes can also be constant or changing.  For example, a person may be very adventurous when they are young, but become more tentative as they get older.

Knowing your personal attributes can help in your decision making.  It is also helpful to know how others view you.

Value and Principle Assessment

Your values are a central part of who you are and who you want to be.  They are the guiding principles that you believe are important in the way you live your life.  They are your deepest held beliefs.

When your activities and your behavior match your values you are satisfied and content.  But when your life is not aligned with your values, you will feel frustrated and unhappy.  If you value spending time with your family, but you have to work long hours every week, you probably will feel stressed and conflicted.

It is important to make a conscious effort to know and focus on your personal values.  By becoming more aware of your values, you discover what is truly important to you and you can use them to make decisions about how to live your life.  When you focus on your values, you are more likely to accomplish what you consider is most important.

 

   

Emotional Awareness

Emotional awareness is the ability to recognize and express what emotions you are feeling and why, as well as understanding the connection between your emotions and resulting actions.  Whether we are aware of them or not, our emotions influence most of what we do.  Emotions are often what drives our behavior and determine our passions and what motivates us.  They are also the foundation of our ability to understand ourselves and relate to others.  That is why it is important to gain a full understanding of your emotions and how they relate to our actions.

Tendencies and Habits

We all have tendencies and habits.  They affect how we act or react to different circumstances or how we think in certain situations.  Some habits and tendencies are good and have a positive impact, while others may not be advantageous and have a negative effect.

Knowing what your particular habits or tendencies are can help you predict how you will act in a certain situation.  By knowing this, you can modify your thoughts and behaviors to get your desired outcome in the situation.

We can also create new positive habits to replace existing negative ones.  The more positive habits you can develop the more enriched your daily life will be.

 

   

Need Assessment

Many of our tendencies may be based on our needs.  There are various psychological needs that drive our behaviors such as needs for esteem, love, belongingness, achievement, recognition, or power.  Knowing which needs exert the strongest influence on our behaviors helps us to understand how we might reaction in certain situations.

Needs and values are different.  You may have the need to not to make a mistake in front of others.  However, you may value the need to make mistake in order to learn.

  

Who you are

The final work sheet is a summation of person you see yourself as.

 

 

Printable Versions of Personal Identity and Self Awareness Worksheets

 

Self Awareness Workshop

Personal Interests

Emotional Awareness

Value Awareness

Needs Awareness

Personal Attributes

Habits and tendencies worksheet

Hopes and Dreams

Career Discovery values

 

 

 

Author:  James Kelly, August 2011

Self Awareness

 

 

Self Awareness

Self Awareness is having an insightful understanding of our personality, values, tendencies, needs, and beliefs.  It is the process of analyzing our thoughts, beliefs, tendencies, and emotions to help us to determine our values and principles.  Acting on this knowledge allows us to reach our fullest potential and to become self-actualized.

Self awareness empowers the discovery process by enabling us to step away and examine the way we “see” ourselves.   As you develop self awareness, you are able to change your thoughts which in turn allow you to change your emotions, and ultimately change your actions.

“What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” ~Abraham Maslow

   

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Self Awareness Process

Self Awareness happens through reflection.  You can have numerous experiences in your life, but still lack self awareness.  You need to take the time to step outside of your experiences and reflect on them.

Self-awareness is about knowing and understanding:

  • your beliefs and principles
  • your own emotions
  • what motivates you
  • your thinking patterns
  • your tendencies to react to certain situations
  • what you want out of life

 

Self Awareness Circle

Personal Identity Workshops

Key areas for self-awareness include our personality traits, personal values, habits, emotions, and psychological needs.  The following Personal Identity Workshops helps you discover your personal attributes, values, needs, and tendencies.  Without conscious modification, most of these remain fairly constant throughout your life. 

 

 

Personal Identity Workshops

Self-Awareness Worksheet

Value Awareness Worksheet

Needs Awareness Worksheet

Personal Attribute Worksheet

Habits and Tendencies

Emotional Awareness Worksheet

Personal Interest Awareness Worksheet

Hopes and Dreams Worksheet

Career Values Exercise

 

 

 

“People travel to wonder at the height of the mountains, at the huge waves of the seas, at the long course of the rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars, and yet they pass by themselves without wondering.”  – St. Augustine

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