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Self-Discovery is a lifelong journey of exploration through our inner self, trying to discover who we are, our potential, our purpose in life, and what core principles are guiding us to take different paths along the way. The journey starts with self awareness then explores personal interests as well as hopes and dreams for the future. The journey eventually leads us to self knowledge which will enable us to guide ourselves towards situations and experiences in which we will thrive.
Self-discovery is a fundamental component of personal growth. We must take the time to discovery who we are as a person. This is accomplished through self-reflection. Self-reflection allows us to think about and examine our actions, preferences, feeling, values, beliefs, emotions, and tendencies. Since we are all different in the way we think, feel, act, learn, and perceive the world, it is beneficial to take the time to reflect in order to gain a better insight into ourselves. Self-discovery is a way for us to explore our individual personalities, natural preferences, values, beliefs, preferred styles and tendencies. The ultimate destination of this journey is finding out who we are and what makes use unique.
“We must not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we began and to know the place for the first time.” – TS Eliot
Process of Self-Discovery
The process of self-discovery is one in which a person is guided, through self-questioning and examination of one’s own thoughts, words, and actions, in order to reach his or her own conclusions regarding who they truly are. Through the process a person gains a deeper understanding of his or her own self, character, values, and purpose in life. He or she also becomes more aware of his or her potential.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes
The Process of Self-Discovery is broken down into four segments;
Self-Awareness – Increasing understanding of who you are, your personal characteristics, your tendencies, your emotions, your needs, and your value.
Interest Awareness – Establishing your personal interests
Hopes and Dreams – Listing your hopes and dreams for the future.
Career Discovery – Finding a career that corresponds to your personality and interest.
“The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The meaning of life is to give it away.” -David Viscot
The first step in the self-discovery process is self-reflection. You must make the time to stop and really think about who you are. Quiet meditation and reflection will allow you to refocus your mind and concentrate on your inner self, and allow you to examine the way you “see” yourself. Self-Reflection allows you to explore your individual personality, natural preferences, values, beliefs, preferred styles and tendencies in order to become self-aware. You can also reflect on your personal interests, your dreams, and what you would like to do for a living.
“A man travels the world over in search of what he needs, and returns home to find it.” – George Moore
Self Awareness Worksheet
Who I am?
Our Self-Awareness worksheet (Who am I?) is the first worksheet in a series of worksheets we use for Self Discovery and Goal Setting. This Self-Awareness worksheet focuses on discovering “Who am I?” It is an all-encompassing worksheet that addresses talents, qualities, values, perception, and self-reflection. The other worksheets in the series focus on a specific aspect of self-Discovery.
The other Self Discovery Workshops/worksheets in the series include:
- Personal Attributes
- Values and Principles
- Emotional Awareness
- Tendencies and Habits
- Needs Assessment
Self-Awareness happens through reflection. You can have numerous experiences in your life, but still lack self-awareness. You need to take the time to step outside of your experiences and reflect on them. The key areas for self-awareness include our personality traits, personal values, emotions, habits, and the psychological needs that motivate our behaviors.
Self-awareness and/or Self Discovery is about knowing and understanding:
- · your beliefs and principles
- · What you value and what is important to you
- · what motivates you
- · your own emotions
- · your thinking patterns
- · your tendencies to react to certain situations
- · what you want out of life
Who I am?
To get you thinking about your personal development plan and your mission statement, spend some time contemplating the following:
What are your greatest talents or skills?
Which of your talents or skills gives you the greatest sense of pride or satisfaction?
What talents or skills do you admire most in others?
What talent or skill do you wish to develop for yourself?
What are your five greatest strengths?
What do you feel are your two biggest weaknesses?
What are your best qualities/characteristics?
What qualities do you wish you had?
What qualities or traits do you most admire in others?
What behaviors, traits, or qualities do you want other people to admire in you?
What are ten (10) things that are really important to you?
What are the three most important things to you?
Do you spend enough time on/with the things you most value? Why or why not?
What are the values that you hold most near to your heart?
How is the “public you” different from the “private you”?
What makes it hard to be yourself with others?
How are you trying to please others with the way you live your life?
What do you want people to think and say about you?
How do your behaviors and actions support what they think or say?
What do you least want people to think about you?
Is it more important to be like by others or to be yourself? Why?
Who are the people who allow you to feel fully yourself?
What places allow you to feel fully yourself?
What activities allow you to feel fully yourself?
How do you want people to remember you when you are gone?
What three things are you most proud of in your life to date?
What do you hope to achieve in life?
If you were to receive an award, what would you want that award to represent? Why?
If you could accomplish only one thing during the rest of your life, what would it be?
What do you believe you are here to accomplish or contribute to the world?
List three (3) things that you are:
List three (3) things that you are not:
What is something that represents you? (e.g. song, animal, flower, poem, symbol, jewelry, etc…) why?
What do you like best about yourself?
What do you like least about yourself?
What three things would you like to change most about yourself?
Who are two people you most admire?
What do you admire about them?
What are five things you love to do?
What matters to you most in my life?
What makes you happy?
What are three things you believe you need in order to have a great life?
Why are those things important to you?
What do you stand for (Principles)?
How do you want to impact the lives of others?
Finish the sentence
I do my best when…
I struggle when…
I am comfortable when…
I feel stress when…
I am courageous when…
One of the most important things I learned was…
I missed a great opportunity when…
One of my favorite memories is…
My toughest decisions involve…
Being myself is hard because…
I can be myself when…
I wish I were more….
I wish I could…
I wish I would regularly….
I wish I had…
I wish I knew…
I wish I felt…
I wish I saw…
I wish I thought…
Life should be about…
I am going to make my life about…
PDF Printable version of Self Awareness worksheet
Author: James Kelly, August 2011
Hopes and Dreams Worksheet
Answer the following questions to complete your Hopes and Dreams Worksheet:
What have been your happiest moments in life? Why?
What are five things you would really like to do in your life?
What would you do if you knew you would not fail?
What would you do if you could do any job in the world?
If you never had to work another day in your life, how would you spend your time instead of working?
What three main things would you do if you won $10,000 in the lottery?
What three main things would you do if you won $100,000 in the lottery?
What would you do if you had unlimited time and money?
What do you hope to achieve most in life?
When your life is ending, what will you regret not doing, seeing, or achieving?
What would you do if you had six months to live?
What is the one thing you must do before you die?
Want do you want the rest of your life to be about?
12 Month Action Plan
Three things that are important to me I can accomplish in the next 12 months.
Three (3) ways I would like to be a better person in the next 12 months.
Over the course of the next year, I want to;
Printable Version of the Hopes and Dreams Worksheet – Hopes and Dreams
Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the hearts of men. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Personal Interest Awareness Worksheet
It is important to identify what you are truly interested in and passionate about. It is those activities that will motivate you the most. The pure enjoyment you receive by doing those activities will provide intrinsic motivation to keep you moving in a positive direction with a lot of energy and enthusiasm. Also by knowing what you enjoy, you can focus your attention on doing more of those activities. The more activities you do that bring you joy and happiness, the better you feel about yourself and your life.
Answer the following questions to determine your personal interests.
I am happiest when I am:
My idea of a perfect day:
Five things I really enjoy doing:
Three things I like to do every day:
I am most passionate about:
Issues or causes I care deeply about:
If I had the talent or ability, I would:
If I could choose any job, it would be:
Answer the following questions.
What are the three activities that you most love to do?
How often do you do them?
If you would like to do them more often, what is stopping you?
What specific changes would you need to make in order to engage in these activities more frequently?
Printable Version of the Personal Interest Awareness Worksheet – Personal Interests
Personal Needs Assessment Worksheet
Rate the influence of the following needs on your life, your behaviors, and your decisions – “1” being the most influential and “5” being the least influential. Add other needs you consider influential to the bottom of the list.
|NEEDS||Very influential ? Less influential|
|Someone to rely on||1||2||3||4||5|
|Be correct and not make mistake in front of others||1||2||3||4||5|
|Be admired by others||1||2||3||4||5|
|Attention of others||1||2||3||4||5|
|Not look foolish||1||2||3||4||5|
|Make others happy||1||2||3||4||5|
|Make people laugh||1||2||3||4||5|
|Be accepted by others||1||2||3||4||5|
|Care for others||1||2||3||4||5|
Other very influential needs affecting your life, your behaviors, and your decisions:
List your eight most influential needs:
Which needs might you want to alter or change (e.g. the need to rely on others, the need to be perfect, etc…)?
Printable version of Needs Assessment – Needs Assessment
Value Assessment Worksheet
Assessing your personal values is an important part of setting your personal goals and creating your life plan. When you identify your values, you discover what is truly important to you.
The following is a list of personal values that many people have identified as being important to them. In the chart below, rate each value listed with the following scale as to its importance in your life – “1” being extremely important and “5” being not as important. Add other values you consider essential to the bottom of the list.
|Most Important ? Least Important|
|Gaining Wealth and financial security||1||2||3||4||5|
|Having loving relationship||1||2||3||4||5|
|Spending time alone||1||2||3||4||5|
|Relaxing and Free time||1||2||3||4||5|
|Having challenges to face||1||2||3||4||5|
|Happiness and having fun||1||2||3||4||5|
|Recognition or fame||1||2||3||4||5|
|Respect to others||1||2||3||4||5|
|Sense of Personal accomplishment||1||2||3||4||5|
|Enjoying time with my family||1||2||3||4||5|
|Helping or serving others||1||2||3||4||5|
|Leaving the world a better place||1||2||3||4||5|
|Learning and education||1||2||3||4||5|
|Personal Fitness and good health||1||2||3||4||5|
|Having personal accountability and responsible||1||2||3||4||5|
|Making my own decisions||1||2||3||4||5|
|Having a stable life style||1||2||3||4||5|
|Creating quality and performing with excellence||1||2||3||4||5|
|Having discipline and order in life||1||2||3||4||5|
|Having someone to rely on||1||2||3||4||5|
|Expressing our Individuality||1||2||3||4||5|
|Being spontaneous and flexible||1||2||3||4||5|
List any other values that are important to you:
Prioritize your eight most important values. (1 being the most important)
What are the most important principles upon which your being and doing are based?
Who are the people you need to be around whom best match your values and goals in life?
Printable version of Value Assessment Worksheet – Value Assessment
Personal Attributes Worksheet / Questionnaire
Below is a list of personal attributes. Identify those attributes which most describe you by circling them.
Personal Attributes Questions
List the 10 top attributes from above that best describe you.
List the five attributes that others most would use to describe you:
List three attributes that you wish you had more of:
PDF Printable version of Personal Attributes worksheet – Personal Attributes
Workshops & Worksheets
The following Personal Identity Workshops helps you discover your personal traits, values, and tendencies. Without conscious modification, most of these remain fairly constant throughout your life.
A personal attribute is a quality or characteristic inherent to someone. Attributes embody attitudes, beliefs and skills. Personal attributes are the distinguishing characteristics that make you “you.” They can often predict how a person will act or react to certain situations.
Personality traits can be interpreted as both positive and negative. For instance, being critical could be a plus for an editor of a publishing company or a building inspector. However, could be negative you are coaching a team.
Personal attributes can also be constant or changing. For example, a person may be very adventurous when they are young, but become more tentative as they get older.
Knowing your personal attributes can help in your decision making. It is also helpful to know how others view you.
Value and Principle Assessment
Your values are a central part of who you are and who you want to be. They are the guiding principles that you believe are important in the way you live your life. They are your deepest held beliefs.
When your activities and your behavior match your values you are satisfied and content. But when your life is not aligned with your values, you will feel frustrated and unhappy. If you value spending time with your family, but you have to work long hours every week, you probably will feel stressed and conflicted.
It is important to make a conscious effort to know and focus on your personal values. By becoming more aware of your values, you discover what is truly important to you and you can use them to make decisions about how to live your life. When you focus on your values, you are more likely to accomplish what you consider is most important.
Emotional awareness is the ability to recognize and express what emotions you are feeling and why, as well as understanding the connection between your emotions and resulting actions. Whether we are aware of them or not, our emotions influence most of what we do. Emotions are often what drives our behavior and determine our passions and what motivates us. They are also the foundation of our ability to understand ourselves and relate to others. That is why it is important to gain a full understanding of your emotions and how they relate to our actions.
Tendencies and Habits
We all have tendencies and habits. They affect how we act or react to different circumstances or how we think in certain situations. Some habits and tendencies are good and have a positive impact, while others may not be advantageous and have a negative effect.
Knowing what your particular habits or tendencies are can help you predict how you will act in a certain situation. By knowing this, you can modify your thoughts and behaviors to get your desired outcome in the situation.
We can also create new positive habits to replace existing negative ones. The more positive habits you can develop the more enriched your daily life will be.
Many of our tendencies may be based on our needs. There are various psychological needs that drive our behaviors such as needs for esteem, love, belongingness, achievement, recognition, or power. Knowing which needs exert the strongest influence on our behaviors helps us to understand how we might reaction in certain situations.
Needs and values are different. You may have the need to not to make a mistake in front of others. However, you may value the need to make mistake in order to learn.
Who you are
The final work sheet is a summation of person you see yourself as.
Printable Versions of Personal Identity and Self Awareness Worksheets
Author: James Kelly, August 2011
Self Awareness is having an insightful understanding of our personality, values, tendencies, needs, and beliefs. It is the process of analyzing our thoughts, beliefs, tendencies, and emotions to help us to determine our values and principles. Acting on this knowledge allows us to reach our fullest potential and to become self-actualized.
Self awareness empowers the discovery process by enabling us to step away and examine the way we “see” ourselves. As you develop self awareness, you are able to change your thoughts which in turn allow you to change your emotions, and ultimately change your actions.
“What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” ~Abraham Maslow
Self Awareness Process
Self Awareness happens through reflection. You can have numerous experiences in your life, but still lack self awareness. You need to take the time to step outside of your experiences and reflect on them.
Self-awareness is about knowing and understanding:
- your beliefs and principles
- your own emotions
- what motivates you
- your thinking patterns
- your tendencies to react to certain situations
- what you want out of life
Personal Identity Workshops
Key areas for self-awareness include our personality traits, personal values, habits, emotions, and psychological needs. The following Personal Identity Workshops helps you discover your personal attributes, values, needs, and tendencies. Without conscious modification, most of these remain fairly constant throughout your life.
“People travel to wonder at the height of the mountains, at the huge waves of the seas, at the long course of the rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars, and yet they pass by themselves without wondering.” – St. Augustine
Self-discovery is a fundamental component of personal growth. We must take the time to discovery who we are as a person. This is accomplished through self-reflection.
Self-reflection allows us to think about and examine our actions, preferences, feeling, values, beliefs, emotions, and tendencies. Since we are all different in the way we think, feel, act, learn, and perceive the world, it is beneficial to take the time to reflect in order to gain a better insight into ourselves.
The first step in the self-discovery process is self-reflection. You must make the time to stop and really think about who you are. Quiet meditation and reflection will allow you to refocus your mind and concentrate on your inner self, and allow you to examine the way you “see” yourself.
Self-Reflection allows you to explore your individual personality, natural preferences, values, beliefs, preferred styles and tendencies in order to become self-aware. You can also reflect on your personal interests, your dreams, and what you would like to do for a living.
“A man travels the world over in search of what he needs, and returns home to find it.” George Moore
Process of Self-discovery
Our process of self-discovery is divided into four segments.
Self-Awareness – Increasing understanding of who you are, your personal characteristics, your preferences, your tendencies, your emotions, your needs, and your values
Interest Awareness – Establishing your personal interests
Hopes and Dreams – Listing your hopes and dreams for the future
Career Discovery – Finding a career that corresponds to your personality and interests
Self Awareness is having an insightful understanding of our personality, values, tendencies, and beliefs. It is the process of analyzing our thoughts, beliefs, tendencies, and emotions to help us to determine our values and principles. Acting on this knowledge allows us to reach our fullest potential and to become fulfilled and self-actualized.
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands but seeing with new eyes.” – Marcel Proust
Unlike many of the elements of self awareness, where you explore traits and tendencies that remain mostly constant throughout your life, your interests often change as you grow and experience life. It is important to identify what interests you because by knowing what you enjoy you can do more of those activities. The more activities you do that bring you joy and happiness, the better you feel about your self and your life.
“Not what we have, but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance.” – Epicurus
Hopes and Dreams
As your interests are in the here and the now, your hopes and dreams are for your future. Your hopes and dreams are wishes or aspiration for your future. They are thoughts and mental images of your futures that conger up positive emotions. A successful and fulfilled life is often measured by the ability to pursue one’s own dreams.
“Make your life a masterpiece; imagine no limitations on what you can be, have or do.” – Brian Tracy
Career discovery is the process by which a person identifies his or her ideal career which he or she will find fulfilling and rewarding. To find a career that will be both challenging and gratifying, you need to take time and reflect to learn about yourself.
- What motivates and interests you?
- What do you find fulfilling?
- What are your values and priorities?
- What skills, knowledge and abilities do you posses?
- What is your personality type?
- What kind of work setting fits best with your personality type?
Self awareness leads to the accumulation of self-knowledge. Self-knowledge identifies what we know about ourselves. It is with self-knowledge we can understand our principles, values, and our purpose and are able to apply it to our lives. With self-knowledge we can understand our strengths to build upon, as well as identify areas where we would like to make improvements.
We do not typically change our personalities, our values, or our needs based on what we learn about ourselves. However, an understanding of our personalities and characteristics can help guide us towards situations and experiences in which we will flourish, and help us avoid those circumstances in which we will experience stress or anxiety.
Self-knowledge is essential for making decision about our life and which road to travel down. Because ultimately, it where we focus our attention that will determine where you go in life.